NRI Marriage Without Intimacy: How I Survived Emotionally
I've been in the U.S. for 9 vears now, came on F1 and then switched to H1B Faced some tough times, especially dealing with RFE issues, but eventually I settled down and built a stable life. I got married 4 years ago and have always tried to do my part whether it's giving her financial freedom, supporting her needs, or buying a house for us. On the outside, everything looks fine.
But inside the relationship, I've been struggling. She completely avoids intimacy and romance. In four years, we've only been physically intimate maybe 3-4 times a year, and even that felt forced. Whenever I try to bring it up she either avoids the topic or says, 'It's my body, I'll do what I want.' She even refused intimacy during the honeymoon so I dropped the trip. I've had so many conversations, even arguments, and tried involving both sides of the family, but nothing has changed. I've reached a point where I feel emotionally and physically drained.
One day I came home and saw a package with my name on it. When I opened it I was shocked to see it was a pocket pussy. She looked at me and said, "Use that if you want sex." She said it like it was no big deal, with no emotion at all I felt hurt, disrespected. Eventually, I stopped expecting anything from her and started focusing on myself. I've gone to strip clubs, and I've had a few physical relationships not because.
I wanted to cheat. but because I needed to feel human aqain. At least now I feel physically okay. ฤพ'm not thinking about divorce or making a scene. I just found my own way to cope and feel a bit of peace. I'm sharing this not for judgment but just to let it out. I am suggesting everyone if you are marrying someone please discuss your physical expectations and etc before getting in to marriage.
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But inside the relationship, I've been struggling. She completely avoids intimacy and romance. In four years, we've only been physically intimate maybe 3-4 times a year, and even that felt forced. Whenever I try to bring it up she either avoids the topic or says, 'It's my body, I'll do what I want.' She even refused intimacy during the honeymoon so I dropped the trip. I've had so many conversations, even arguments, and tried involving both sides of the family, but nothing has changed. I've reached a point where I feel emotionally and physically drained.
One day I came home and saw a package with my name on it. When I opened it I was shocked to see it was a pocket pussy. She looked at me and said, "Use that if you want sex." She said it like it was no big deal, with no emotion at all I felt hurt, disrespected. Eventually, I stopped expecting anything from her and started focusing on myself. I've gone to strip clubs, and I've had a few physical relationships not because.
I wanted to cheat. but because I needed to feel human aqain. At least now I feel physically okay. ฤพ'm not thinking about divorce or making a scene. I just found my own way to cope and feel a bit of peace. I'm sharing this not for judgment but just to let it out. I am suggesting everyone if you are marrying someone please discuss your physical expectations and etc before getting in to marriage.
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